Size does matter

Adrianne Kristianto

Yes, what’s inside matters the most when it comes to finding a partner; however, I believe that this saying is easier said than done. Before you get in your feelings, let me clarify that there is absolutely nothing wrong with being under 6’0” as a man – love yourself, love your height. There are five-foot-something men out there who are beautiful inside and out, and honestly, I wouldn’t mind getting to know them romantically. But get this though: there’s also nothing wrong with finding a man’s height swoon-worthy.

When interviewing candidates for the boyfriend position, I can be very meticulous – one small flaw can play a big factor in the hiring process. Setting high qualifications is very crucial so that the candidate knows what he signed up for and the company won’t be let down in the long run. And being over 6’0”, or at least taller than me, is one of the qualifications for this position. Humor and intelligence might be the top two common things that women look for in a guy, but some people tend to be not so receptive when discussing height – the physical appeal.

Physical attractiveness plays a more important part in our dating decisions than traits because we associate other positive qualities with a pleasing appearance – and these are fax, no printer (Dion et al., 1972; Griffin and Langlois, 2006) We tend to pursue relationships with those who we think are good looking, and different people have different views on what they think is “attractive” or “unattractive”. For some, it might be the color of their eyes, their feet or even their hairline. For me, I would find it attractive if he could get me something on top of the fridge without using a stool – it all boils down to our own romantic preferences. And yes, ladies, weight can be one of the qualifications that he has when it comes to looking for a partner, so don’t bash them for this. But don’t stop reading just yet.

So, does that mean if you’re under 6’0” (or a certain weight) you’re not attractive? Hell naw. Just not to some, which is absolutely more than fine because to someone who you haven’t met yet (or have), you are as attractive as Trevante Rhodes. To someone, you are their Noah, Jr. in that raining scene. To someone, you are their Dr. McDreamy. To someone, you are way more than enough. Hence, don’t look at your height, weight or whatever you think is a flaw as a flaw. Look at them as the ideal qualifications that someone who you just haven’t seen romantically has. If it is meant to be, it’s meant to be. The right person will come at the right time when you’re not looking for one. In the meantime, work on your own qualifications, you heard?